Look at the Good
Love is best expressed by that which you do not do. Hillel the Elder said this when he summed up the entire Torah, “If you do not like something, don’t do it to someone else.”
What is it that you most dislike? You don’t appreciate when someone pries into your faults, underlining each one with a red pen. So if you truly wish to express love to someone else, don’t even look at his faults. Find whatever is good about him and talk about that.
-Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Lubavitch (“Tzemach Tzedek,” 1789-1866)- Derech Mitzvotecha, Mitzvat Ahavat Yisrael